I was talking to a group of girls recently and we started talking about this term that one of the girls called the "Taylor Swift Syndrome".
She mentioned that in our society there tends to be this belief that girls/women can only be at MAXIMUM 2 out of 3 from the following:
1. Beautiful
2. Smart
3. Nice
Think about it...
We see it in television shows and media.
We see it while we scroll through social media.
We see it with our peers at school.
If a girl is smart and nice ...then she's gotta be ugly.
If a girl is beautiful and smart ...then she must be a "beezy".
If a girl is beautiful and nice ...then there's no way she can be smart.
For some reason, we've built this perception that women cannot be all three.
There has to be something to bring her down.
The reason that she had labeled it the "Taylor Swift Syndrome" is because she believes that Taylor portrays all of these characteristics.
She is beautiful.
She is smart as she's built her career to such levels.
And she's nice ...mentioning that she's baked her friends cakes for there birthday.
Yet, she seems to receive some of the harshest criticism from people.
Why is it that we feel the need to tear other women down?
Why does there HAVE to be something wrong with her?
Why can't a female be smart, beautiful and kind?
Now, ask yourself this...Do you have the Taylor Swift Syndrome?
Well then let's talk about how can we change that:
1. Notice when you're falling into the trap
2. Compliment other girls rather than tear them down
3. Stand up for other girls when you notice people having the Taylor Swift Syndrome
Remember that just because you or someone else is noticing another person's great qualities or successes ...it doesn't take away from your own.
So don't be afraid.
I think it's time for a change ...so let's focus on the way that we think about other women/girls!!
Is this something that you've struggled with? How else do you think we could change the way that we treat each other?
Just comment below ...I'd love to hear your thoughts!!